The Need For Comradery

Comradery- The spirit of friendship and community in a group, like the comradery of soldiers at war who keep each other upbeat despite the difficulty of their circumstances.


I had a mom recently ask if I would like to hang out with her sometime to talk and get coffee. Her exact words were,” You know, just to talk, cry with someone. I just need a friend. I have been so overwhelmed lately.”  Did she read my mind? (And probably the mind of many mothers out there) I said, “Yes! I would love to, I need a friend too!” How encouraging and refreshing it was to have another mother be so blunt and ask for a true friendship.


Ladies, the mediocre friendships are there. Yes, the husband and children are great. The house is picked up. We even made it to church three Sundays in a row. Yep, we have the small talk down pat. We have figured out how to paint the picture of the Proverbs 31 woman.


However, it’s the true comradery we are lacking and greatly need. I know technology has given us many conveniences we wouldn’t normally have, yet I believe mammas in many ways had it easier back in the day. It was the friendships that made the difference. It was unheard of for women to work outside the home. This gave them the advantage of being together more often. I picture that when they got together to let their children play that they knew more about each other than just the recipe they tried the night before. Instead they talked of their trials, tribulations, shared victories, and prayed for their husbands and children. If they were Christian women there was no bashing of husbands or talking of how their kids were driving them crazy, no… It was a vulnerability and a bearing of their soul. (There is a difference) A place where the other women would say, “Oh girl I’ve been there… this is what turned my marriage around or this is how I better loved my children.”


Yes we are women. We cry a lot, laugh a lot, and carry the weight of the world. But we can also leave a huge impact by simply speaking truth. Truth of God’s word, truth of failures, and truth of victories. The truth is we don’t always feel like smiling through this motherhood journey. True friends will carry us, encourage us, and remind us of God’s grace. That my friends is true comradery. Who’s with me?


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12 Responses to The Need For Comradery

  • Leslie Page says:

    I’m with you! Your Momma and your friend!

  • Melissa says:

    Girl. I swear you read my mind. Every time I’m needing encouragement, you write specifically to what I’m struggling with. What a blessing you are!

  • Megan Gadd says:

    ME!!!! I completely agree! You’ve been a friend to me through your loving and encouraging words. Even though I am in California and you are in your state, we are sisters in Christ and that is enough 🙂
    Stop by sometime if ever you are in Cali. I promise not to burn the cookies ;)…

    • Brittany says:

      That is so sweet! Thank you for taking the time to comment that. Never thought I would have a friend in California! LOL, about the burnt cookies! I promise I would still eat them!

      • Megan Gadd says:

        Well you do and I mean it. You are welcome for a visit anytime. We all would love to have you and your fam. Our house is small, but filled with love and babies (6 & the oldest just turned 8 🙂 Keep truckin along. You are on the right path. Don’t worry about leaving your job if u haven’t yet. I left mine 5 years ago and I only wish I would have done it sooner! These are the precious years and now wild horses could not drag me from being with them! God has always provided AND we live in the bay area (near San Fransisco)! Just continue to love your hubby and your babies while clinging ever tight to the Savior. He is the only way us Mamas make it through :)….ps Loved the salted caramel cookies. You were right, they are amazing!!!!..

  • AMEN! I love this post and it is so true. Husbands and children are wonderful, but friendship with other women is SO important – and, yes, harder to come by now that the majority of mothers work outside of the home (at least where I live?). I’ve met many of my fellow stay-at-home mom friends through church and I am so blessed with their friendship and mentorship!

    “It was the friendships that made the difference. It was unheard of for women to work outside the home. This gave them the advantage of being together more often.”

  • Great post! I can always tell when I am lacking comradery with other moms; I get grumpy and unhappy. I think it’s a good idea for moms to take care of themselves occasionally. 🙂

  • Keri says:

    I love this post because I am such an introvert and could very easily hide behind my computer most days rather than socialize. My problem is that I want deep, lasting friendships–the ones I’ve had in the past have been much more shallow and disconnected. But the Lord put it on my heart to pray for a friend and I did. He is faithful and brought a sweet Christian woman into my life who identifies with me, encourages me, and cries with me. She is such a blessing to me. I agree. We need more comradery. Thanks for speaking truth!

  • We so need the friendships of women…no matter how old we are, how old our kids are, or what stage of life we are in. Having been through a year of transition, and now being in a new place, I’m hungry for those relationships to build in this new life. Thanks for the reminder that it’s worth it to do the work required to build these relationships.

  • Krista says:

    Thanks for letting us stop by last week, it was more for me than anything 🙂

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