She Wouldn’t Have Believed Me (For all Future Mommas)

for future mamas

I was at work doing my weekly shift at the hospital. Me and a couple of girls were sitting in the break room when she announced that she and her husband were going to try to have a baby.

 

I’m not lying y’all. I am a pregnant hormonal basket case right now. I wanted to cry, cut a back flip, and give her the biggest hug around her neck. I wanted to spill my guts about everything. From the changes in the relationship with her husband, the new way she will view the world, and the roller coaster she has just gotten on. I wanted to tell her to, “Hold on tight girl, it’s an amazing ride!”

 

I knew my words would be insignificant compared to the great magnitude of emotions. There is no way to describe the depth of intimacy between a husband and a wife when they are conceiving a child. How could I explain the anxiety, nervousness, and excitement at even the thought of life forming days before the pink lines appear? When that day does come she wouldn’t believe me if I told her she will feel like she could throw up, cry, and jump up and down all at the same time.

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There is nothing I could have said to prepare her for the transformation her body was going to endure. From the waves of nausea to the tiny flutters of a sweet life beneath her stretched thin skin. She will never feel more proud of what her body can do. She will never look at her body the same. From her old perspective she will look in disgust, but then her mama brain will kick in and think how she would do it all again a million times over.

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To even begin to put words together of what it would be like to see that precious baby with a scent from heaven for the first time would have been pointless. To fall instantly in love would have been an understatement. How could I have told her that on that day she will become a fighter for all things good and worth living in this world for this baby wrapped in her arms.

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I didn’t want to tell her that when she takes that brand new baby home she will be more tired than she has ever been in her entire life. Her once confident self will second guess everything, from how to hold the baby, how often to feed, what to feed, what diapers are best, and if she is the best one for the job. She will feel like she needs a break, but the moment she steps away her heart will break. She will doubt her abilities and wonder if she is good enough for this sweet gift that cries every night between 7 and midnight. There is no description of the joy and victory you feel when the baby sleeps for 4 hours straight for the first time. She will wake up feeling like a new woman only to start back over the next night.

 

I wanted so bad to tell her  how sweet a six months old laugh is. I wanted to tell her about the smell of when they first get out of the bath tub and your clothes are soaking wet from the their chubby hands splashing. I wanted to tell her what the word, “Mama,” coming from that baby would do to her heart. There is no point, she wont believe me until she’s there.

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I wanted to go ahead and prepare her for their first birthday party. I wanted to remind her to not stress and to take every ounce of memory in. I wish she knew the happiness of the moment when her and her husband are on either side of the high chair and surrounded by family to sing happy birthday. I wanted to tell her how cute it is going to be when that baby smashes the cake in between their fingers for the first time.

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How could I ever explain the rush when they take their first steps or the way her heart will skip a beat when they fall and hit their head. She doesn’t even want to get me started on when they first say, “I love you.”

 

I want so bad to tell her all about this journey of motherhood and how amazing, hard, rewarding, fulfilling, and empowering it is. She will cry more than she ever has, laugh more than she ever has, and love more than she ever has. Her life will change… but for the better. The girl she thought she was will be a distant memory to the woman she will become over night. She will become someone’s world. Just wait…you’ll see.

 

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21 Responses to She Wouldn’t Have Believed Me (For all Future Mommas)

  • Nicole says:

    It’s so true – some of this you’ll never know or understand until you experience it. My baby will be turning 1 in February and it’s been quite a roller coaster of emotions and learning experiences! Visiting from A Mama’s Story.

  • Lauren says:

    Amen! It is a wonderful journey, but for some reason you don’t believe it until you go through it yourself. Our little one is 5 months old, time is surely flying.

  • Melissa says:

    <3

  • Georgia says:

    I’m pregnant now with my first child, when I first found out there were all kinds of emotions running through me. You’re right it’s nothing you can describe. Even if you are “ready” for a baby the reality of actually being pregnant is overwhelming and scarey. Now I am 31weeks and noone could have explained to me what it feels like to have another life growing inside you or the love that you will feel for your unborn baby. What a blessing! I enjoy reading everything you write, Brittany! I will find out in a few short weeks how true everything else uou said is when I get to hold this sweet baby boy!

  • Debby Short says:

    I love reading your blog Brittany and I am just so happy for you and Tim. I enjoyed seeing you guys on Sunday, Willow, Zoe, and Ty are so precious!! and such a precious gift from God. They are such happy children and they have a wonderful Mom and Dad. I enjoyed just being around all the children hearing them laugh and play. I loved every minute of raising my children. When I look at Ariya now I see little Maricel, and see so much of her in Ariya. I am so thankful to God for trusting me to raise Maricel and Taylor, and allowing me to be a mother something i would never trade for anything in this world. Enjoy your children even in all the chaos, emotions, hard work. it is worth all the kisses, hugs and love you get in return. I am so proud of you and Tim and wonderful adults and parents you have become. We love you guys so much!!

  • CJ says:

    Beautifully written – wait until you are a Gramdma – a Nana – a MeMe – alot of these feelings happen all over again with each new life that enters your world.

  • Sarah Beth says:

    I found your blog on the Mommy Moments Blog Hop! I think we may be the same person 🙂 Our “about me” section could be the same. I have loved looking around and I’m now following you every way possible. I’d love it if you gave my blog a glance.

  • Linda says:

    OK, You made me cry. Tears of joy and sweetness. Love your words so beautifully shared. Me? I’m not expecting. But my daughter is! It’s their first, and though she has been here when her younger siblings were born and raised, being a mama herself is an all together different thing. You are right, there is only so much you can share, there is oh so much she’ll learn as she walks the journey. That sweet, hard, wonderful journey of motherhood!

  • Hi Brittany! This was beautifully written and so true that it nearly brought me to tears. It’s amazing how strong all those emotions are but they just cannot be explained or understood until you are a mom!

  • Oh, this is all so true. I have a ten-month-old and it’s been – a whirlwind – since the moment he was born. No woman ever truly knows…Not just the amazingness of it all, but also the hardness of it. We lost two babies before my son and I think, in my deep desire to have children, I idealized motherhood into this easy, breezy, wonderful-feeling world of smooshiness. And then my son was born! And I got postnatal-anxiety! Ha! Never expected it!

    We’re expecting #2 and I have learnt so much – but if I went back in time and told myself what motherhood is really like {all the smooshiness and the hardness} I don’t think I would have listened. Sigh.

  • Lesley says:

    I used to tell Megan, “one day you will understand”, when trying to explain just how much she is loved…I am sure you heard that too while growing up. Now that she is a mommy she totally gets it and watching it happen, seeing her with her own child, has been one of the greatest, most beautiful gifts from God that I have ever experienced. I had friends that used to tell me how great it was to be a grandparent and I thought it was all about the grandchild but it’s so much more…one of those things I can’t explain but you will know one day. xoxo

    • Brittany says:

      Yes, I heard the same thing. It is so true. You never understand the sacrifices and love your own mother had until you are one. Being a Grandma will be a true gift! Can’t wait to find out for myself one day FAR FROM NOW:)

  • This is a wonderful post. So many women share about the negative aspects of motherhood (e.g., just you wait until you aren’t getting any sleep at night…the terrible twos…the tantrums…). It’s really nice to see someone focus on the positive!

  • Diane says:

    What a beautifully written story. So true. 🙂 Thanks for joining us at the Gathering Spot this week. Have a wonderful weekend!

  • This is an amazing post and truly describes all of the emotions of having a baby! It’s so exhausting and can be so emotionally draining but my goodness it’s worth every single second!

  • So true. There is nothing like becoming a mom! Thanks for sharing via Family Fun Friday.


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