Why I Hate Small Talk

Why I Hate Small Talk

Oh the small talk, I just can’t handle it. I understand at times it’s necessary. Do you ever just want to say, “Ok, cut the crap and let’s get to the good stuff!”? I’m not going to lie, I’m terrible at small talk. It is when the barriers that separate us are broken that I can breathe, and be myself…and that my friends is when the great things can happen.


Let me ask you a question…What if the awkwardness and gaps in our relationships didn’t exist? What kind of power would that hold?


Imagine what we could learn from one another. We could have the opportunity to break the walls and barriers. We could be the bridge.


The bridge that goes over different races, social statues, from the working mom to the ones who stay at home, from the mom of many to the woman in the depths of infertility. We could have the chance to get real. We could cry when we want, laugh, and love. Not just any love, a learned love. The kind that comes from conversations and stories filled of their hopes, dreams, and fears. A chance to truly understand what it is like to walk in their shoes.


My, what we could do and accomplish.


We could raise awareness for the raging racism all around us. We see protest, watch the news, and listen to the blaring opinions. Did we ever question how we are still  in this place? We can’t miss opportunity to dig in deeper and really listen.


Have you ever noticed the awkward silence when a woman is in the throws of infertility: rather at a baby shower, church function, or a girls night out? We must let them know we notice them, and get over ourselves. Ask about their journey, pray for them, help fund an adoption if that is where the Lord is leading them. Infertility could happen to any of us at any time. Let’s be the bridge.


We could lend a hand to all the mothers no matter where they are working. Because they are ALL working…Can I get an AMEN? We can link up our arms circling around in prayer for one another. We can gather in the name of Jesus.


To be vulnerable is when we can really change our world. We not only gain perspective into another person’s life but we gain new perspective into ourselves and our motives.


To close the gap, we must bridge it over, built with sincere purpose. We must walk across it to the other side, often. So often, that we no longer have a side to which we belong. It is a beautiful picture of women united. Let’s cut the small talk and get personal. The wisdom gained and poured will be so beneficial.


Who’s with me? Any one else hate small talk?

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...

12 Responses to Why I Hate Small Talk

  • Stacy says:

    You and I got past the small talk fast. What a wonderful conversation we enjoyed. Love getting to know you better on my visits here.

  • Sarah says:

    I so hear you! It’s not my thing either. I can’t listen to others go on… and on… and on… about nothing! Love the post and looking forward to reading more of your work. Thanks so much for your work!

  • Valerie says:

    I agree! I like to get to know people on a deeper level. I used to be that Infertile woman at a Baby shower. I would have loved someone finding out how I really was doing! Great post! Visiting from Monday musings

  • Helene says:

    I am afraid that small talk is often disguising chatter to hide ourselves rather than what it should be an opportunity to reveal ourselves one little bit at a time!

  • Michelle says:

    I don’t necessarily hate it. I wish people would be more comfortable in their skin to go deeper in their conversations with others. I am a talker, I like going deep…with that said, I have had to learn over the years not everyone is like me. Some people are intimidated by others who want to say “talk” and so small talk is much more doable for them. When I am in the mode of deep conversation, trying to get past the “so what is new in your life” question into really, tell me what’s new in your life, I seek out those people. I enjoyed your honesty here. If you ever want to link up to our Tuesday Talk link up on Tuesdays beginning at 8:00 a.m., please do. It goes on all week. We love posts like this! From Women With Intention link up party.

  • I agree with Michelle that many people chatter because they don’t want to expose who they really are, or to know who others really are for that matter. It is just plain intimidating for many people to go deep. Myself, I’m not a great small talker and I’m thankful for close friends who are deep thinkers. We can spend hours talking about the important matters of life and things of the Lord and that is so uplifting.
    Great and thought provoking article 🙂
    Blessings to you,

  • Donna Short says:

    Small talk can be awkward. I think it depends on the circle in which you are participating. I hate small talk in places where I don’t know people very well. Honestly, being in places I don’t know people very well is awkward for me in the first place and then to have to think of things to say to fill the time…that makes me tense inside. I don’t mind small talk with family and close friends, though, because it can lead to deeper conversations.I am all about meaningful conversations and trying to be supportive of anyone who is having a struggle in life.

Hey Y'all! My name is Brittany Styron. Sweet Country Roots is a place I hope to encourage, inspire, and bring a chuckle. Grab yourself a cup of coffee and join conversations about marriage, babies, homeschooling, frugal living, good food, and an old fashioned way of thinking.

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Join 187 other subscribers