Make Room
Recently, I have been feeling the urge to let go of commitments and things on my to do list that are distracting me from these precious ones during the day. I’d like to look at this as not, “Letting go,” but, “Making room,” for the more important.
The first thing I’m letting go of in order to make more room is Bible study. Although this is a very wonderful thing, and I benefit greatly from it, this is just not the right season for me. Between taking care of my husband, taking care of the kids, homeschooling, and managing my home its easy to feel overwhelmed at times. I feel God leading me to focus my strength and energy on one place and to do it well. I have been feeling like I am merely running here and there to lots of good things, but I am doing them below the potential God has given me. I am going to be trying an online Bible study and see how that works. I’ll let y’all know how it goes!
The second thing I plan on letting go of in order to make more room is my Iphone. Dont get me wrong, its helpful, amazing, and convenient. But…its also a nuisance, distracting, and aggravating. From phone calls, texts, email alerts, Facebook alerts it’s just another one of those things shifting my focus from where it needs to be. Boundaries is the key word here. I am feeling bombarded by this world with every little sound it makes. I am going to attempt to go back to my sweet little flip phone. I’ll let y’all know how that goes as well:)
I am hoping these two small changes will make a difference in some of the clutter in my mind and put it back to an eternal perspective. My goal is to slowly start adding to my list to lift this burden that was never intended to be there. This job God has given me must take priority.
In what ways are you making room for the important in your life?
Protecting Their Innocence
I never gave it much thought until I became a parent. The idea of protection seemed overrated. I assumed that one day when I had children that they would learn all of the bad stuff in this world anyways, and that they may resent me if I tried to, “Hold them back.” Boy oh Boy has my perspective changed dramatically since I held that beautiful baby girl in my arms for the first time. From that day forward it has become my mission to protect her and any of her siblings from this world of ours, that seeks to damage their sweet spirits.
For me, this doesn’t necessarily mean keeping them sheltered and hidden from all of the terrible things in this world. It’s about relishing in the true and pure joy of just being a child. Innocence in a child is a precious and sacred thing. Once it’s gone their minds are tainted. To protect it is a gift we can give to our children.
How many of us would give anything to not know of the terrible things in this world? Why burden our children with it? Let me clarify, I am not saying to not let them know about the less fortunate or encourage them to brainstorm on ways to help. I am talking about the news, having heated debates about politics in front of them, and of course most commercials on TV now are completely inappropriate for children. I know some would disagree but I am convinced that children these days have it much harder. They are bombarded 24 hours a day by a world that is seeking to rob them of their precious childhood and treat them like adults. Never before in history have more children had their own cell phones, computers, I pods, or TV’s. They now dress like adults, talk like adults, and look like them. I’m not saying all of these are wrong. Perhaps I am old-fashioned, but what ever happened to the tacky dressed kid with their hair not brushed climbing in the tree?
It just seems like we have forgotten the joy of being a kid. Our children only get one childhood. Let’s make it awesome for them!
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My Second Boy
Ahhh! I am so thrilled to be having another baby boy! I love that my youngest, Ty, will have have a younger brother to wrestle with, chase, and be buddies with. It has been so beautiful watching my two older girls form their close relationship and I am so thankful to watch, “The boys,” have the same thing. I am seeing a lot of rowdiness in my near future. Honestly, I can’t wait! Whoever is reading this post, I am going to need you to remind me of this a couple years from now:)
Here are some of my newest thoughts knowing now that there is another baby boy on the way. Some are far fetched dreams, others will be my reality…
I am feeling overjoyed at God’s provision and watching His perfect plan unfold.
I never thought I would have a set of girls and a set of boys.
I can’t believe it’s possible to love another little boy so much you’ve never even seen.
What am I going to do when these boys start liking their older sister’s friends???
I love that they will share a room one day. (The roughest, toughest room ever!)
I love that they will someday share a business -a dream;)
I love the idea of more trucks, trains, and dirt.
I hope he never feels outdone by an, “Older brother.”
He just has to think that this will be the funnest place to live ever!
Does he have any idea how much his sisters are going to baby him? He probably won’t learn to walk till he’s five from being carried everywhere!
Will he ever know how much he is loved by us all?
I hope I can show him how loved he is.
My boys will be the pitcher and the catcher! -a dream;)
I am going to start praying now for this baby to be a strong man of God.
Is he going to try to scare me with pranks or bugs?
Will he like my cooking?
I can’t wait to see Tim carrying two boys!
This is going to be a wild adventure. I am so thankful I have been chosen to take it. I am ready to raise and love another little man for the glory of God!
Anticipation
Anticipation to see your little profile on the screen.
Anticipation to listen to your siblings ask a gazillion questions.
Anticipation to squeeze Daddy’s hand when we see your sweet heart fluttering.
Anticipation to put a name to the bump in my belly.
Anticipation to see God’s pattern of children unfold.
Anticipation to buy baby dolls or trucks.
Anticipation to share with family who are just as excited as they were the first baby.
Anticipation for what the future holds.
Anticipation for today.
Anticipation for you.
Love you sweet baby #4, we can’t wait to see you!
Crazy Personality?
Ever wondered why you are the way you are? What is it the way you were raised, temperaments that were passed down from generations past, or people who you surround yourself with? The older I get the more I am seeing that God gave me this personality for a reason. He does this for all of us in order to weave together His perfect plan, from the perfectionist all the way to the laid back procrastinator.
I would describe my personality as goofy, laid back, and rebellious. I know that these were God-given to tailor to my family and their specific needs, just as my husbands and children’s personality were meant for my needs. I have not always been so laid back, but I think God has formed this out of necessity for not going insane when things don’t go my way. As far as the rebellion, I’ve always had that. God is using it in greater ways for His glory than the, “Not listening to authority,” idea you get when you hear someone is rebellious. Instead, He is showing me not to follow crowds and basically do the opposite of the world.
Today, let’s stop comparing ourselves to others we wish we could or should be like. We have these God-given personalities for purpose. Let’s use them for His glory!
5 Things I Never Knew About Homeschooling
I’ve been homeschooling for over a year or so. I have learned a lot in this short period of time about myself, my children, and homeschooling in general. A lot of the things I have learned I’m sure I was told, but there is nothing like learning it all first hand. I have lowered my expectations considerably and have learned to accept the following:
- My house will always look like a tornado went through it. It may stay clean for a total of five minutes, but that’s about it. These babies are learning, growing, and creating constantly. The disarray of crayons, baby dolls, books, and trucks have become my new normal. Don’t get me wrong, its fun around here, but good gracious it’s messy!
- They really are learning all day. I’ll admit there are times I want to be done with being the teacher and want to just be momma. I’m learning that they go hand in hand. Rather it be teaching them to tie their shoe, to say thank you, or to quit picking their nose and use a tissue. The teaching and learning never stops. Education is a lifelong process that can’t be wrapped up into a couple of hours a day. Math and reading are a very small part of the equation.
- You have just as much laundry. I’m actually thinking I may even have more, here’s how I came to this conclusion. They wake up and after getting breakfast all over their pajamas they are ready to change clothes. Once formal school is over, they head outside and usually end up completely filthy. They come running in and have lunch then want to put on new pajamas for rest time. Once they get up from their naps…you guessed it, back outside, but with new play clothes since the others are dirty. Finally, the day ends with a fresh pair of pajamas at bedtime. As far as the baby… there’s poop, pee, food, and any other thing he can get into all over him. Since he can’t complain he just stays filthy all day:) -No, the poop and pee don’t stay on him!
- You never leave the kitchen. We’ve got a cute little playroom/ home school room. My husband recently put in shelves to help with the organizing and space. It seems no matter how hard I try to have a cute little learning day in there, we all end up in the kitchen with books and papers everywhere. I think it’s just because they ask for a gazillion snacks a day. Some days I feel as though I don’t leave the room until bedtime. Good thing I love eating too!
- The amount of patience required. I had no idea all of the learning I would encounter this year. It really is a lot of sacrifice and giving of grace to your children. I mess up quite often. Yet, this is just another way for my kids to watch me have humility, ask for forgiveness, and seek God’s help. In return, I have also experienced something I didn’t know about homeschooling. Through all the struggles, aggravations, and grace there is an unexplainable joy when you watch your child learn something for the first time. I’m telling ya, there’s absolutely nothing else like it! It’s an amazing rush of emotions that makes this all worth it. I see it as God’s gift to me, to help me keep trucking along.
I can’t wait to see what this next year will bring. Homeschooling has been one of the most rewarding blessings for our family. So… Do you want to do it too?:)
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Why Have Children?
The thought of having more than one or two children puzzles many people. Unless of course the first two were the same-sex then it might be acceptable to try one more time. They don’t understand it, and have been brainwashed by society to see them as a hindrance and burden. They think, “Who the heck would want that?” Honestly, at one point I had fallen subject to the brainwashing as well. Thankfully, the Lord opened my eyes to see children the way He sees them. No, I don’t see them that way all the time, but the glimpse He gives me of the vision and big picture He has for my children are all I need. They are blessings, legacies, and our army to stand with us.
Is it scary to bring so many children into the world? Well yeah, it sure is. We look around at this crazy place we live in and feel the need to cover the eyes and ears of these precious ones, and guard their hearts from future trouble this world brings. But with those glimpse from God I was referring to, we also see God’s love shining from them. They affect family, friends, and strangers with just their presence. Just the other night we all went out to eat and a family sitting beside us were commenting on how amazing it was to see three small children with another on the way. I asked him how many they had, and he replied, “4 teenage children.” I asked then why he was so amazed, he said he hadn’t seen that many little children that close in age in a long time. This family had lots of curiosity and smiles. When you see well behaved children (Not that this is always the case) they are contagious. That’s what God wants. They are our way to draw people in and show them Jesus.
It says in the Bible that they will stand with us against our enemies. These aren’t just children they are PEOPLE, and will grow to be our closest friends. To raise them in the fear and abomination of the Lord is not only a commandment, but is served to be a blessing to us. It also says in the Bible that we will have no greater joy than to watch our children walk with the Lord. If they are walking with the Lord then we will always have prayers going up on our behalf, we will have care if we get sick, and they will be able to reach all of the people we were never able to reach and bring them to Christ.
The whole idea of having children is to always be looking at the big picture while living in the moment. This may seem counter productive, but I think it is very powerful. If we can look at them as future leaders of this world we are training, then we won’t mind the small sacrifices of the moment and redirect them once again. If we can look at them as future husbands and wives who will one day raise our grandchildren then we can sacrifice our time by living in the moment and let them help us cook, or work out in the yard. If we can look at them as future best friends, then we can sacrifice our to do list by living in the moment and color that picture with them or play hide and go seek to form those sweet relationships.
No, I wont ever be a doctor, have a business, or have what people call free time (What is that again?) I will, God willing, be having and raising people. Just like all those other great occupations are those people’s calling…this is mine. I am confident he will give me exactly what I need each step of the way. May I always do this job He has given me well for His glory to reach the world.
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To My Friend
On my sidebar I have a gadget that allows me to see the direction of the traffic I get on my blog. On this gadget I can also see what someone may have typed in a Google search about a certain topic that led them to my blog. One particular phrase I have seen get searched that led them here quite a few times is,” I’m a tired Mom,” or,”I’m a worn out Momma.” This breaks my heart for these women who are searching the internet for encouragement.
If I personally knew you, whomever you are, I would have you over to my house. I would do my best to clean it so you could walk through the toys, make sure the last kids who went potty flushed, and light a fall smelling candle to hide the smell of burnt cookies I tried to make you. When I heard the doorbell ring I’d check to make sure I didn’t have food smudges on my face from the kids and remind them to please be nice and welcoming! I would give you a big hug around your neck and say, “Oh girl you’re not ALONE!” We would chow down on burnt cookies and coffee while reminding children to share and spill or guts.
Whoever you are sweet friend, please know that any mom who can be real and is worth having as a friend will tell ya that this whole momma thing is no walk in the park. Please don’t look at my blog or any other blog out there for that matter as to how you don’t measure up. Obviously you’re doing something right or you wouldn’t be searching for words of encouragement to pull you up.Unfortunately there is no secret formula to make it easier. We must link arms and push ahead together looking at Jesus who called us to do THIS job, to raise THESE kids, and to do it all with THESE circumstances He has given us. Nobody can do your job the way God called you to do it, not even the supermom down the street who is always pulling out those homemade casseroles at 6:00 on the dot with a spotless kitchen.
God will finish this work He has started in you. Stay faithful to Him. Yes, you will be tired but somewhere there is an inner strength of the Holy Spirit that keeps us putting one foot in front of the other when you may not even want to. Stay the course friend, breathe, keep your eyes on JESUS, and one day your children will produce that fruit you are yearning to see. You’re investing in the eternal, there is no way to measure your worth in God’s eyes. He sees our exhaustion and probably even chuckles when the baby climbs on the table for the millionth time. Through all of this He is growing us and giving us sweet memories to look back on and think, “How the heck did we make it?”
So friend, if your reading this today, just remember you were equipped long ago for this job. Take those negative thoughts captive that tell you you’re not good enough, and remember who’s you are. Rest in that today until you can climb in that bed again tonight with a smile on your face knowing you’re doing the work of God.
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A Stubborn Bossy Granny
Yesterday was my Granny’s 75th birthday. I am not lying when I tell ya that this woman is one of a kind. If there were words to describe her, they would perfectly match the title of this post. Yes, she is stubborn and bossy, but with that kind of will comes a God-fearing woman who believes in her passions no matter what. As I get older my husband loves to point out our similarities! I confess I am not NEAR as bossy, and she would agree:).
The awesome vision here is that you never know what kind of legacy you are going to pass down to future generations. The good and bad qualities about us are what make us memorable and able to pass something down that’s useful and worth it. My Granny believes when the Church doors are open then you better be in that pew. She believes no meal is complete without a big slab of butter and grandchildren to feed it to. She loves her morning paper with black coffee and would read it and drink the coffee all day if time allowed. She believes in escaping reality with her late night TV shows of, “Dancing With The Stars”, and “David Letterman.” She knows when you’re hurting, and in her own way makes you feel better by just saying, “Honey you just got to trust in God.” She believes in a warm home, making your bed, and changing bathroom rugs like it’s nobodies business. This woman has had no major accomplishments or won any grand prizes from society’s perspective. However her love, character, passions, and even her stubbornness are knit through all of us. For that, she has accomplished great and mighty things.
I wonder what legacy I am knitting through to generations after me? I feel like because of Granny and all the God fearing women in my family before her, that I can pass on the same convictions, passions, and even rebellion to my children and their children’s children. For all these reasons and many more I feel so happy and blessed to have a stubborn and bossy Granny. Happy Birthday you crazy woman! We all love you to pieces!
Five Ways To Be A fighter
As I go through this life and am faced with the ups and downs that come along with it, I have realized that this here wife and momma needs to become a fighter! Not only for myself but for my home and family. It is no secret that the devil comes to steal, kill, and destroy. You better bet that the more you love the Lord then the more he is waiting to pounce at any opportunity he can get. I have gathered five different ways to bring out the fighter in me so I can stand boldly and protect this sweet family of mine.
The crazy crew I’m fighting for.
1. Be a prayer warrior. Honestly, I’m always a little leery of this phrase. After all, we should be praying all the time any ways. This isn’t just some spiritual gift that some have and others don’t. This is a command and it is for our own benefit. What I mean by the phrase prayer warrior is to pray with a vengeance like you and your family’s life depends on it, because in actuality it does. I often struggle in this area. I’m slowly trying to train my mind and heart to pray throughout the busyness of days. Even simple words directed to God amidst chaos do not go unheard. When we are talking to God, rather it be thanking Him for a moment, or asking for help, our hearts are directed to Him. There is such power behind that, and most of the time we are never even aware of it.
2. Surrender no opportunity. We have all heard Christians and non Christians say, “Never go to bed angry.” This is a statement that holds true, however the reasons go very deep. This not only means to fix problems with your spouse before the next day. This also hold true to any offense that has been made our way. It delights satan when we have been offended. He would love nothing more than for us to harp on words that were spoken by whomever they may be. He is the one in our brain replaying the tape recorder over and over again and laughs as we get madder and madder. Let’s stop this in its tracks and give over no opportunity to weaken our spirits. He wants us weak so he can take his chance to pounce on us or our family. Solve your issues with anyone right away as if you and your family’s life depended on it, because in actuality it does. This will not only form a hedge of protection for your family but will influence the offender and your children.
3. Gather your army. I heard a phrase at Bible study, “Run to the throne and not the phone.” I 100% agree with this. When issues arise we should run to Jesus and not the first person we can think of to call. However, every good strong fighter knows they need other strong fighters around them. They need the accountability, the trust, and someone to help them up when they’ve fallen. We all will fall, so we need our armies close. Surround yourself with them like as if you and your family’s life depended on it, because in actuality it does. This also means that we pick up other members of our army when they fall, or perhaps fight alongside them as well.
4. Look at the big picture when the little one stinks. Oh man… this one gets me. In the middle of those crazy, hectic days when the kids are fighting, your running on little sleep, and everyone and their brother wants to call ya, it hard to keep your boxing gloves on. Most of the time I want to throw mine out the window. When we look at our current situation instead of the big picture of God ordained interruptions its easy to grow weary. In all this, we are not praying, and we are giving the devil major opportunity to succeed. We must keep our vision. Someday, the vision might be to simply keep everyone alive, fed, and make it to bed that night. Even in that, there is hope to make it through those tough days. Other days your vision may go further into the future of the kind of people you are trying to train for God. Either way, when things are tough, look up to God and ahead. Do this as if you and your families’ life depended on it, because in actuality it does. When things are easy remember to look down at those sweet faces and enjoy.
5. Be determined, not overtaken. We must wake up each day with war paint smeared on our faces in determination to rise above, receive grace, and give it. Do this as if you and your families’ life depended on it, because in actuality it does. Rather we want to believe it or not, we are in a war zone. This could be with the world, or even our own flesh. The best news of all is that we are not alone in any of this. We can feel undertaken at times, but we truly never are because God has already won the victory. He is on our side and is whatever we need Him to be at any given time. Some days he may be our revolver to blow satan’s head off. Other days He may be our bullet proof vest to protect us from blows from the enemy. There may even be days where He is simply are place of rest and refuge to recuperate from the battle. He is so good to us.
Never give up when things look hopeless, others are in the same battle. You never know, there may be someone in your army praying on your behalf 🙂
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